Intro A seemingly healthy marriage can mask the roots of loneliness and it is far too often that this state goes unrecognized and untreated. Whether one or both spouse feels disconnected from the other, isolation begins to infect the relationship and even when marriages remain intact, the marriage fails to unite in oneness with each other as well as with God. Infertility, over-committed work schedules, and many other life interference’s can not only contribute to loneliness but can also be the underlying reason why a husband and wife eventually drift from the desire to love each other. In the busyness of life how is a couple to even identify this poison that so subtly enters and slowly eats away at the foundation of the marriage? As the loneliness goes on unaddressed, the couple will either find unhealthy ways to numb themselves to the pain or devastatingly divorce. Loneliness and isolation does not have to be fatal to a marriage and identifying its existence is the first and hardest step towards healing and a truly united marriage as God designed it to be. References Balswick, J. O., & Balswick, J. K. (n.d.). The family: A Christian perspective on the contemporary home. Clinton, T. E., Hart, A. D., & Ohlschlager, G. W. (2005). Caring for people God’s way: Personal and emotional issues, addictions, grief, and trauma. Nashville: Nelson Reference & Electronic. Clinton, T. E., & Sibcy, G. (2006). Why you do the things you do: The secret to healthy relationships. Nashville, TN: Integrity. Clinton, T. E., & Hawkins, R. E. (2009). The quick-reference guide to biblical counseling: Personal and emotional issues. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books. Dobson, J. C. (1975). What wives wish their husbands knew about women. Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House. Dobson, J. C., & Dobson, J. C. (2000). Complete marriage and family home reference guide. Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House. Eggerichs, E. (2004). Love & respect: The love she most desires, the respect he desperately needs. Nashville, TN: Integrity. Zondervan Publishing House. Smalley, G. (2005). The marriage you’ve always dreamed of. Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House. Wooten, W., & Swihart, P. J. (2006). Complete guide to the first five years of marriage: Launching a lifelong, successful relationship. Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale House.